|October 24, 2012||Filled under Obituaries, Our Town||
Beatrice S. Tabakin – Shelburne
Bee, a 30-year breast cancer survivor, succumbed to her new cancer on Oct. 17, 2012, at Wake Robin in Shelburne. The daughter of H.B. Small, D.D.S and Lula S. Small, R.N., Bee was born Dec. 22, 1922, at home in Burlington. She married Burton S. Tabakin, M.D. on Dec. 9, 1972. In addition to her husband, she leaves behind her brother, Melvin H. Small, D.D.S.; daughter, Jill Smith; sons, Jonathan Tabakin, Daniel Tabakin, Robert Tabakin, M.D. and his wife, Liza Donlon, M.D., Stuart Tabakin and his wife, Carmalita Samson, and James Tabakin and his husband, Fred Antonoff; sister-in-law, Julia Smith Northrup; and two nephews and their families. She also leaves behind the joys of her life, 13 grandchildren, 12 great-grandchildren, and one great-great-grandchild. Bee was predeceased by her two cherished daughters, Ruth Ann Sutton Kaye, and Laura Sutton Knapp; sister-in-law, Nan Small; and her first husband, Lt. Charles P. Smith III, killed in W.W.II. She served on the boards of the American Red Cross, the visiting Nurses Association, was secretary of the Mary Fletcher Auxiliary, and president of the Medical Society Auxiliary. She volunteered for the Chittenden County Correctional Center, raised money for The American Heart Association and was a proud member of P.E.O. Chapter E. Bee dedicated the last decades of her life to fighting cancer and helping those who were afflicted. Starting as a volunteer for The American Cancer Society, she rose to the position of president of the Vt. State Cancer Society Board. She was chosen to represent Vermont in Washington, D.C. at a national observance of the American Cancer Society and was honored for her volunteer work by President and Mrs. Reagan in the White House Rose Garden. Through her boundless empathy and energy, she was a Reach-To-Recovery and Road-To-Recovery volunteer, driving patients to their treatments and helping them with their daily living activities. She actively participated in fundraising for numerous Relay-For-Life events. The new Lois McClure – Bee Tabakin Hope Lodge , a temporary home for cancer patients treated at the Medical Center in Burlington, was named after her to acknowledge her work as the major fundraiser. Bee always loved fashion. She started as a buyer for the women’s department at the old Bee Hive Department Store on Church Street. She went on to open the Country Clothes Horse, her own women’s specialty shop on Colchester Avenue. This passion led her to organize numerous charitable fashion shows. She also loved playing bridge with her lifelong friends – they were known as the “giggly-girls club.” One of her final wishes was for one more game. There will be a memorial service to honor, celebrate and remember Bee on Saturday, Nov. 3, 2012, at 4 pm at Wake Robin in Shelburne. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Hope Lodge, 237 East Ave, Burlington, VT 05401.
Arnold Golodetz – Shelburne
Arnold Golodetz was born on March 9, 1928, in Hamburg, Germany. He died peacefully on Oct. 12, 2012, in Shelburne. When Arnold was six, his family sought refuge from Nazi Germany in England, where he went to elementary school, and spent a year sequestered in Scotland with other school children during the bombing of London. In 1940, with an invasion of England a real threat, his family finally found safety in New York City, where he attended Bronx High School of Science, graduating at age 16 to attend Harvard College. Following medical training at the University of Rochester and in Boston hospitals, Arnold worked to bring medical care to under-served areas and practiced family medicine at the first Neighborhood Health Center in Columbia Point. During this time, he met his wife, Virginia Demaree, a senior public health nurse, and took his master’s degree in social and community medicine at Harvard’s School of Public Health. Arnold joined the faculty of the University of Vermont’s Medical School in 1969, where he practiced chronic disease and geriatrics. He later became medical director of the Vermont Peer Review Organization, which, in turn, led him to study and teach medical ethics and medical philosophy. He was the first chair of the board of the Medical Ethics Committee of the Vermont State Medical Society, as well as of the Ethics Advisory Committee at the Medical Center Hospital of Vermont. He was a pioneer in medical ethics in Vermont and was instrumental in bringing Advance Directives to the state. Arnold’s most rewarding volunteer activity was with the Visiting Nurse Association, serving 25 consecutive years on the board. He valued the opportunity to be one of three founders of the Vermont Ethics Network. He also served on the boards of Planned Parenthood, ACLU of Vermont, Project Home, and other organizations. Outside of medicine, Arnold and his wife, along with two other families, founded The Children’s School, a parent-cooperative early education school based chiefly on Montessori principles. They were also partners in their patronage of the Flynn Theater and other arts organizations, advocates for quality early childhood education, and sponsors of many efforts to improve their community. He counted as his great good fortune that his three daughters settled in northern Vermont with their families, and loved to watch his grandchildren growing up. Arnold is survived by his wife, Virginia; brother, Oscar and his partner, Lora Sporny; three daughters, Amy Golodetz, Debbie New, and Alisa Darmstadt; their husbands, Greg Leech, Jonathan New, and Chip Darmstadt; seven grandchildren, Sarah, Ellie, Maria, Brandon, Sam, Charlie, and Ruth; nephew, David Golodetz, and wife, Kim, and their daughters, Rachel and Jill; and niece, Phyllis Etienne, and husband, Patrick, and their son, Marcel. A memorial service will be held on Saturday, Nov. 10, 2012, at 2 pm at All Soul’s Interfaith Gathering in Shelburne. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Visiting Nurse Association’s “Friends for Life Fund,” to benefit Family and Children’s Services: 1110 Prim Road, Colchester, VT 05446. Condolences may be sent to Amy Golodetz, 60 South St., Essex Jct., VT 05452.
Shirley Ethel Parkhill, R. N. - Shelburne
Shirley Parkhill of the Wake Robin community in Shelburne passed away peacefully on Oct. 19, 2012 at the age of 89.
Shirley was an original Wake Robin resident, having moved in when the facility opened 19 years ago. Until mid-October she was actively involved in the community’s activities, taking pride in her “job” of counting the gift shop receipts every day.
Born to Thomas L. and Clara (MacDonald) Parkhill on July 11, 1923, in West Springfield, Mass., Shirley graduated from West Springfield (Mass.) High School in 1941 and from the University of Martha Washington in Fredericksburg, Va. in 1944.
She entered nurses’ training at Yale-New Haven Hospital that year and received her master’s degree in nursing from Yale in 1947.
For 36 years Shirley was a fixture at Yale-New Haven, starting in the thoracic surgery ward and becoming an administrator in the School of Nursing. With her long-time roommate, Kathleen (Bib) Barrett, Shirley spent summer vacations at Camp Rich on the Milton shore of Lake Champlain for decades. When she retired they moved from New Haven to Wake Robin to be closer to the lake.
Shirley was often seen being tugged around the Wake Robin campus by a small hairy dog named Gus. And once a week she would attempt to play pool without threatening the legacy of Minnesota Fats or Fast Eddie.
Shirley is survived by a cousin, Barbara Bertine and her husband, Brian of Winston-Salem, N.C. and by her “adopted” nephew and niece, Steve and Lynn Delaney of Milton.
She formed a new “family” with her friends and neighbors at Wake Robin, where she felt cherished and at home. On the day before she died she told doctors at Fletcher Allen Hospital in Burlington, “I want to go home.” She got there just in time.
Funeral services will be held at Corbin and Palmer Funeral Home in Shelburne on Friday, Oct. 26 at 10 am, to be followed by interment at St. Ann Cemetery in Milton.
Remembrances can be sent to the employees’ appreciation fund, 200 Wake Robin Dive, Shelburne, VT 05482.
Michelle Ann Drake – Essex
Michelle Ann Drake, 74, died Sunday, Oct. 21, 2012, in the Vermont Respite House, in Williston, following a long illness. Born on Oct. 11, 1938, in Buffalo, N.Y., she was the daughter of the late Georges and Arleen (McKenna) Milot. She graduated from Holy Angels Academy in Buffalo, N.Y., and attended Plattsburg University, studying fine arts. Besides being a full time mother of four children, Michelle had a very dynamic career as a realtor, starting in 1965 in New York state and then starting her own agency in Northern New Hampshire and Vermont. She continued her career in the Nashua, N.H., area until her retirement in 1999. She worked at Beebe Real Estate in Hollis, the Norwood Agency, and DeWolfe of New England. She was very well respected by her clients and formed many lifelong friendships as a result. Her peers truly enjoyed working with her and loved her humorous personality. Among Michelle’s survivors is a sister Sheara Billado and her husband, Bill, of Shelburne. Michelle was predeceased by her brother, Gerry Milot. Calling hours will be held on Saturday, Oct. 27, 2012, from 10 am to 12 noon in the Ready Funeral Home Mountain View Chapel, 68 Pinecrest Dr., in Essex. Interment will follow in the Lakeview Cemetery in Burlington. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made in Michelle’s name to the Vermont Lung Association or the Vermont Respite House.